The last days of December calls for the New Year ….we see lights ,music and the celebrating spirit all around. People interacting with people is the primary source of attraction in all festivals . Relationship calls for it’s own boundaries but are we aware of the Islamic interaction with people. A small peek into “People skills” will be an added advantage to our dictionary.
There are many levels of interacting with people:
1. Muwasat– This kind of relationship is based on compassion to the entire creation irrespective of ethnicity, religion or background even so extended to all animals and creatures. It includes charitable aid, assistance, allowance, removing harm. One needs to fulfill this without bias.
“Those who are kind and considerate to Allah’s creatures, Allah bestows His kindness and affection on them. Show kindness to the creatures on the earth so that Allah may be kind to you.” Hadith – Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi”
A funeral procession passed in front of the Prophet and he stood up. When he was told that it was the coffin of a Jew, he said, “Is it not a living being (soul)?” (Sahih Bukhari, Volume 2, Book 23, Number 399)
History talks of many examples in support of this be it from Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) carrying the bag of a Non-Muslim to Omar(Radhiallaho Anho) who gave stipend money to Non-Muslims during his Caliphate. It goes so much so that if a Muslim oppresses (kills) a dhimmi (Non -Muslim) unjustly he will not even smell the fragrance of Paradise.
– This kind of relationship is when dealing with people on a one on one basis. It requires us to be good to them with respect to manners and behaviour (pleasant, friendly and polite)
A Jewish man came to Prophet’s (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam)house. Prophet(Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) offered some food; man ate, spent night there, rested on Prophet’s bed and left it dirty. He forgot his sword and came back to get it. Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) gave it with due respect. Seeing this the man became Muslim. Subhan Allah…
3. Mu’amalat – This kind of relationship is when dealing with people during work (business, school, hospital, library, industry and technology) or trade (market, consultation). Again we are required to deal with them with honestly and with good conduct.
4. Muwalat– This kind of relationship is forbidden as it involves close and intimate friendship, deep love and affection in the heart. It requires complete support, help, co-operation to the other person resulting in compromising of our deen(religion). A person tends to get influenced by the other’s speech, behavior, dressing and other practices. This friendship is exclusive to Allah, his messenger and the believer’s. (As mentioned in my previous article the most predominant of desires is that of women.)
Let’s not question the full stop…….
One may wonder why so much of categorization while dealing with Allah’s creation? Well, all commands that are given by our religion or Sharia (Islamic Law) has a goal and a purpose. Subhan Allah anything that harms a person’s religion is not supported, and anything improving a person’s Imaan (belief) is commanded and encouraged.
A good, religious spouse is important in serving our Deen. Our outlook of life changes, benefits of duniya decreases and the confidence in Imaan increases. With a Non-Muslim as spouse or Wali we are depriving ourselves of unlimited opportunities. The focus would be on approving the person’s actions and pleasing him rather than Allah, which would eventually take us away from our goal.
Imaan (belief) leads to increase in Imaan and Kufr (disbelief) leads to increase in Kufr.
A person will be with whom he loves. (Bukhari, Muslim)
My dear friends, love is such a strong emotion that draws you towards it .We tend to leave everything in order to focus on pleasing the person and staying away from disappointing him. Sometimes, apparently we do consider it wrong, but deep down in the heart we dwell over it, muster it although we don’t verbalize our feelings. We *are in* it. And we can’t help but feel it (and of course we must…shhhhh it) :)
لِّلَّهِ مَا فِي السَّمَـوتِ وَمَا فِى الاٌّرْضِ وَإِن تُبْدُواْ مَا فِي أَنفُسِكُمْ أَوْ تُخْفُوهُ يُحَاسِبْكُم بِهِ اللَّهُ فَيَغْفِرُ لِمَن يَشَآءُ وَيُعَذِّبُ مَن يَشَآءُ وَاللَّهُ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ
To Allah belongs all that is in the heavens and all that is on the earth, and whether you disclose what is in yourselves or conceal it, Allah will call you to account for it. Then He forgives whom He wills and punishes whom He wills. And Allah is able to do all things.(Al Baqarah:284)
We all claim to love Allah, but does Allah accept it just be we saying? No, he needs proof. He requires evidence which is obtained by doing Itteba e Sunnah(following the ways of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam)). If we don’t do this our claim is not true.
Some companion’s said, we love Allah with hubban shadeedah(intense love) so Allah told,
“ Say (O Muhammad to mankind): “If you (really) love Allah, then follow me
(i.e. Muhammad), Allah will love you and forgive you your sins.
And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” ” (Imran: 31)
For the sake of emphasis I repeat in italics, if you love Allah follow the prophet(Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam).
I would like to sign off by stating what Ali (Radhiallaho Anho)said, there is no obedience to the creation if it means disobedience to the creator.
Where does my ABSOLUTE RELATION WITH THE CREATION STAND?