Fear of the Lord

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

 لَوْ أَنْزَلْنَا هَٰذَا الْقُرْآنَ عَلَىٰ جَبَلٍ لَرَأَيْتَهُ خَاشِعًا مُتَصَدِّعًا مِنْ خَشْيَةِ اللَّهِ ۚ وَتِلْكَ الْأَمْثَالُ نَضْرِبُهَا لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ  

If We had sent down this Qur’an upon a mountain, you would have seen it humbled and coming apart from fear of Allah . And these examples We present to the people that perhaps they will give thought.(Al- Hashr:21)


Ironically every single word read from the speech of  “The President  or Minister“ of a country grasps our attention. We glue our eyes to him and our ears are propped up. The heart pumps faster and our minds are constantly analyzing, working and contemplating .

Unlike the rest of the creation, the Quran, is the word of ALLAH swt. However many of us consider it to be the creation of Allah.

When ALLAH swt talks to us through the Quran, sadly nothing of the above happens. Man being the best of ALLAHS creation has free will power and multiple Intelligence, despite this fact he still cannot understand the word of ALLAH .

The reasons might be :-

  1. Man does not understand the communication language ie ARABIC
  2. He does understand the language, but he actually does not know who ALLAH is.(ALLAH’s power, his majesty)
  3. His head understands the language, the heart knows who ALLAH is, but his hand(body) is not aligned with his head and heart.

With reference to the above ayah what then could be the reason, that if the word of Allah (ie the Quran) were sent down upon a mountain, you would have seen it humbled and coming apart from fear of Allah although it does not have a mind, heart and soul?

And further in the Ayah Allah says “And these parables/examples we present to the people that perhaps they will give thought”

The parable means that if a huge creation like a mountain had the sense and knowledge that it had been made responsible and accountable, like man, before Allah Almighty, for its deeds, it would have trembled from the fear of it. But how heedless, senseless and thoughtless is the man, who understands the Qur’an, and has known the whole truth through it, yet he is neither seized by any fear nor feels worried as to what answer he would make to his Lord about the responsibilities that have been placed on him.

There is a Hadith of the Mutawatir grade that states that the Messenger of Allah had someone make him a Minbar(a short flight of steps used as a platform by a preacher in a mosque) before that, he used to stand next to a tree trunk in the Masjid to deliver speeches. So, when the Minbar was made and placed in the Masjid, the Prophet came to deliver a speech and passed the tree trunk, headed towards the Minbar, the tree trunk started weeping, just like an infant. The tree trunk missed hearing the remembrance of Allah and the revelation that were being recited next to it.

In one of the narrations for this Hadith, Al-Hasan Al-Basri said after narrating the Hadith, “You – mankind — are more worthy to miss the Messenger of Allah than the tree trunk!”

Subhan Allah, apart from mankind the rest of Allahs creation, some with no heart, some with no mind and some without a  soul are moved to tears, humble themselves , tears themselves apart…….

I am amazed and wonder how a similar impact could be replicated on the supposedly best of ALLAHS creation?

Contemplating over, I’ve mentioned a few and would love to hear the rest from you:-

1.Nourishment of the head and hand via heart – Knowledge of the Quran(especially Tafseer) will soften the heart just like rain softens the hard ground, this softened heart will send blood to the head/brain, and this softened blooded brain will send signals to all parts of our body(hands)-

2.The head, heart and hands are aligned in a single direction. Our physical world is a manifestation of our Internal world -Curing ourselves from the diseases and blackness of the heart, fixing that internal flesh.
Real external change happens because of changes in the internal world of thoughts, emotions, beliefs and dreams.

اِلَّا مَنْ اَتَى اللّٰهَ بِقَلْبٍ سَلِيْم                   
Except him who brings to Allah a clean heart [clean from Shirk (polytheism) and Nifq (hypocrisy)] (Surah Ash-Shuara – Verse 89)


And SO!!!!!!  I question myself, “Where am I on that Head-Heart- Hand continuity and am I content with that? “ Today?   In general?
Is the heart lying in ambush or perhaps the head in a coma?  Or is the Heart passionately leading a pointless, and destructive crusade, and the head is either silent, or shouting pointlessly ‘wake up!

And my response to that is وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَيُعَلِّمُكُمُ اللَّهُ
                               “And have Taqwa/Fear of Allah; and Allah shall teach you” [2:282]

And where are you, dear reader?  I’d love to hear from you.


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Itehad (Unity)

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

 وَاعْتَصِمُواْ بِحَبْلِ اللَّهِ جَمِيعاً وَلاَ تَفَرَّقُواْ وَاذْكُرُواْ نِعْمَةَ اللَّهِ عَلَيْكُمْ إِذْ كُنتُم أَعْدَآءً فَأَلَّفَ بَيْنَ قُلُوبِكُمْ فَأَصْبَحْتُم بِنِعْمَتِهِ إِخْوَاناً وَكُنتُمْ عَلَى شَفَا حُفْرَةٍ مِّنَ النَّارِ فَأَنقَذَكُمْ مِّنْهَا كَذلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ ءَايَـتِهِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَهْتَدُونَ

And hold fast, all of you together, to the Rope of Allah, and be not divided among yourselves, and remember Allah’s favor on you, for you were enemies of one another but He joined your hearts together, so that, by His grace, you became brethren, and you were on the brink of a pit of Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus Allah makes His Ayat clear to you, that you may be guided (Ale Imran-103)

The story of the farmer and his quarreling sons is well known to everybody. The sons could easily break each stick separately. But when the sticks were tied into a bundle, nobody could break the bundle. From such an example, they learnt the lesson, that union is strength.

Before I actually understood the meaning of Itehad(Unity), I was made to step behind to understand  Inzemaam.

Inzemaam to understand in simple terms is to dissolve sugar in water, the resultant is a  sherbet(juice). The original property of neither the sugar nor water exists, rather a new product is formed.

Itehad on the other hand is you mix together different substances  like cement ,Iron, Sand and  they become one but holding onto their original properties.

We are Ummat e Wahida (One Nation), irrespective of our differences in  race, color, country, the way we raise our hands in Salah(prayer) et al we are one in the  belief that  “La ilaha illallah Muhammadur Rasulullah” There is no GOD but ALLAH and Prophet Mohammed(sws) is the messenger of ALLAH”

The many social, political differences arising today amidst us  is because we have considered this world to be a garden  but have forgotten that this garden is for painful strains, Neither for enjoying the roses nor for making a nest.

Am I still sleeping?


The alarm is on, it’s a wake up call for the UMMAH.

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The Amazing Camel and its Creator

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

If you ever doubted that God exists,

Meet the Very Technical, Highly Engineered

Dromedary Camel.

When I’m hungry, I’ll eat almost anything

A leather bridle, a piece of rope, my master’s tent,

Or a pair of shoes.

My mouth is so tough a thorny cactus doesn’t bother it.

I love to chow down grass and other plants

That grow here on the Arabian desert

I’m a dromedary camel, the one-hump kind

That lives on hot deserts in the Middle East.

My hump, all eighty pounds of it,

Is filled with fat-my body fuel-not water as some people believe.

My Mighty Maker gave it to me because

He knew I wouldn’t always be able to find food

As I travel across the hot sands.

When I don’t find any chow, my body automatically

Takes fat from the hump, feeds my system,

And keeps me going strong.

This is my emergency food supply.

If I can’t find any plants to munch, my body uses up my hump.

When the hump gets smaller, it starts to tip to one side.

But when I get to a nice oasis and begin to eat again,

My hump soon builds back to normal.

I’ve been known to drink twenty-seven gallons of water in ten minutes.

My Master Designer made me in such a fantastic way that

In a matter of minutes all the water I’ve swallowed

Travels to the billions of microscopic cells that make up my flesh.

Naturally, the water I swallow first goes into my stomach.

Their thirsty blood vessels absorb and carry it to every part of my body.

Scientists have tested my stomach and found it empty

Ten minutes after I’ve drunk twenty gallons.

In an eight-hour day, I can carry a four hundred pound load

A hundred miles across a hot, dry desert

And not stop once for a drink or something to eat.

In fact, I’ve been known to go eight days without a drink,

But then I look a wreck.

I lose 227 pounds, my ribs show through my skin,

And I look terribly skinny.

But I feel great!

I look thin because the billions of cells lose their water.

They’re no longer fat. They’re flat.

Normally my blood contains 94 percent water, just like yours.

But when I can’t find any water to drink,

The heat of the sun gradually robs a little water out of my blood.

Scientists have found that my blood can lose up to

40 percent of its water, and I’m still healthy.

Doctor’s say human blood has to stay very close to 94 percent water.

If you lose 5 percent of it, you can’t see anymore; 10 percent, you can’t

Hear and you go insane; 12 percent, your blood is as thick as molasses

And your heart can’t pump the thick stuff. It stops, and you’re dead.

But that’s not true with me.


Scientists say my blood is different.

My red cells are elongated. Yours are round.

Maybe that’s what makes the difference

This proves I’m designed for the desert,

Or the desert is designed for me.

Did you ever hear of a design without a Designer?

After I find a water hole,

I’ll drink for about ten minutes

And my skinny body starts to change almost immediately.

In that short time my body fills out nicely, I don’t look skinny anymore,

And I gain back the 227 pounds I lost.

Even though I lose a lot of water on the desert,

My body conserves it too.

Way in the beginning when my intelligent Engineer made me,

He gave me a specially designed nose that saves water.

When I exhale, I don’t lose much.

My nose traps that warm, moist air from my lungs

And absorbs it in my nasal membranes.

Tiny blood vessels in those membranes take that back into my blood.

How’s that for a recycling system? Pretty cool, isn’t it.

It works because my nose is cool.

My cool nose changes that warm moisture in the air

From my lungs into water.

But how does my nose get cool?

I breath in hot dry desert air,

And it goes through my wet nasal passages.

This produces a cooling effect, and my nose stays as much as

18 degrees cooler than the rest of my body.

I love to travel the beautiful sand dunes.

It’s really quite easy, because

My Creator gave me specially engineered sand shoes for feet.

My hooves are wide, and they get even wider when I step on them.

Each foot has two long, bony toes with tough, leathery skin

between my soles, are a little like webbed feet.

They won’t let me sink into the soft, drifting sand.

This is good, because often my master wants me to carry him

one hundred miles across the desert in just one day.

(I troop about ten miles per hour.)

Sometimes a big windstorm comes out of nowhere,

bringing flying sand with it.

My Master Designer put special muscles in my nostrils

that close the openings, keeping sand out of my nose

but still allowing me enough air to breathe.

My eyelashes arch down over my eyes like screens,

keeping the sand and sun out but still letting me see clearly.

If a grain of sand slips through and gets in my eye,

the Creator took care of that too.

He gave me an inner eyelid that automatically

wipes the sand off my eyeball just like a windshield wiper.

Some people think I’m conceited because I always walk around

with my head held high and my nose in the air.

But that’s just because of the way I’m made.

My eyebrows are so thick and bushy

I have to hold my head high to peek out from underneath them.

I’m glad I have them though.

They shade my eyes from the bright sun.

Desert people depend on me for many things.

Not only am I their best form of transportation,

but I’m also their grocery store.

Mrs. Camel gives very rich milk

that people make into butter and cheese.

I shed my thick fur coat once a year,

and that can be woven into cloth.

A few young camels are used for beef,

but I don’t like to talk about that.

For a long time we camels have been called

the “ships of the desert” because of the way

we sway from side to side when we trot.

Some of our riders get seasick.

I sway from side to side because of the way my legs work.

Both legs on one side move forward at the same time,

elevating that side.

My “left, right left, right” motion makes my rider feel like

he is in a rocking chair going sideways.

When I was six months old,

special knee pads started to grow on my front legs.

The intelligent Creator knew I had to have them.

They help me lower my 1000 pounds to the ground.

If I didn’t have them,

my knees would soon become sore and infected,

and I could never lie down.

I’d die of exhaustion.

By the way,

I don’t get thick knee pads because I fall on my knees.

I fall on my knees because I already have these tough pads.

Someone very great thought of me and knew I needed them.

He designed them into my genes.

It’s real difficult for me to understand

how some people say I evolved into what I now am.

I’m very technical, highly engineered dromedary camel.

Things like me don’t just happen.

They’re planned on a drawing board

by Someone very brilliant,

Someone very logical.

(Extract taken from  Moody Press)


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I am sure…

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

  By Noor Fatima Lais (Grade 3)

You can be a bit small,         IMG_3526
You can be a bit tall… 

You can be a bit small,
You can be a bit tall… 

You are very small,
yet you are big from the inside,

You are very small,
yet you can do big things,

I am sure,
I am sure

 You can be a flying moth,
but can’t fly away from your LORD!

 If you are big or small, tall or short,
It is no use,
unless your close to your LORD

I am sure,
I am sure

So watch out, be careful,
The last moment of your life will soon come
You can’t hide from your LORD!

 Your gold and richness will fade away,
Watch your time..
The day of resurrection will soon come.



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Why small things shatter happiness

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

 Narrated Al-Miswar bin Makhrama: That ‘Amr bin Auf, who was an ally of Bani ‘Amir bin Luai and one of those who fought at Badr in the company of the Prophet , said, “Allah’s Apostle sent Abu ‘Ubaida bin Al-Jarrah to Bahrain to bring the Jizya taxation from its people, for Allah’s Apostle had made a peace treaty with the people of Bahrain and appointed Al-‘Ala’ bin Al-Hadrami as their ruler. So, Abu ‘Ubaida arrived with the money from Bahrain. When the Ansar heard of the arrival of Abu ‘Ubaida (on the next day) they offered the morning prayer with the Prophet and when the morning prayer had finished, they presented themselves before him. On seeing the Ansar, Allah’s Apostle smiled and said, “I think you have heard that Abu ‘Ubaida has brought something?” They replied, “Indeed, it is so, O Allah’s Apostle!” He said, “Be happy, and hope for what will please you. By Allah, I am not afraid that you will be poor, but I fear that worldly wealth will be bestowed upon you as it was bestowed upon those who lived before you. So you will compete amongst yourselves for it, as they competed for it and it will destroy you as it did them.” ” Al-Bukhari, Vol 5 Book 59, Number 351

Happiness, Ahh! Who doesn’t want to be happy? We all desire happiness. We pursue pleasure systematically through life – it comes as naturally to us as the sunflower turns to the sun. But pleasure once obtained does not last; so once again, the search begins. Moreover, pleasure is ephemeral; it eludes the seeker at the final moment. One may work very hard and get all that the world considers necessary for a happy life, yet none of these things can make us really happy.

Sorrow is a fact of conditioned existence, it is pain and suffering that leads us towards growth. Contentment cannot come by looking at those who have more than we have. It comes when we try to look at those who are worse off, who are less fortunate than we are. A saint once said, “I cried for boots, until I saw a man who had no legs”, the more thing’s we require for being happy, the greater our chances for despair and disappointment.

Happiness is a state of mind, this is easier to achieve once we learn to be less self-centered. The more ego-centric, we are, the more vulnerable we become; even a small thing can shatter our happiness. At the material, an intellectual and spiritual level there is every chance of our being disappointed so long as we are egocentric.

Statistically, there is a bell-shaped curve, tapering off, either side, showing that extreme cases are rare, so extremely good or extremely bad people are rare.

I guess, one should cultivate detached attachment, since everything is transient. In our happiest and saddest moments, we must remind ourselves, “This too shall pass away”. In sensation no permanent home can be found, because change is the law of this vibratory existence.

وَعَدَ اللَّهُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتِ جَنَّاتٍ تَجْرِي مِنْ تَحْتِهَا الْأَنْهَارُ خَالِدِينَ فِيهَا وَمَسَاكِنَ طَيِّبَةً فِي جَنَّاتِ عَدْنٍ

وَرِضْوَانٌ مِنَ اللَّهِ أَكْبَرُ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ هُوَ الْفَوْزُ الْعَظِيمُ

Allah has promised the believers — men and women, — gardens under which rivers flow to dwell therein forever, and beautiful mansions in gardens of `Adn (Eden; Paradise). But the greatest bliss is the good pleasure of Allah. That is the supreme success[At-Tauba:72]

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Resilience of Imaan – The Islamic way

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

I really think that when you search for answers to something and your search is real good, just the right things seems to show up, providing you with the clues and the directions you need to acquire your goals.

This was exactly what I sensed and felt on my trip to the other end of the world.

The search for “building my resilience” took me around to places, homes, families, masjids, events who too were in pursuit of striving to achieve the same thing.

I pause to ask, “What is Resilience?”

The Dictionary states,
1. It is
the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity.
The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.

 The holiday season seemed as a boon to unite either the smaller families or the greater extended families (as an Ummah) to revive their Islamic spirit.

                                                               Or.. was it?

Either end of the globe there are ‘signs’ that Imaan is not stagnant and continues to flow like a fast flowing river. At times the river moves slow and at times the river flows faster and faster, and sometimes with full force. To the outsider, the force of the flowing water hitting against the rocks is a beautiful sight the eyes long to see and the ears long to hear. The fast movements as well as the slow and gentle flow of the water is what makes us who we are. Imaan either moves up or down – it is never constant, similar to the flow of water. Sometimes we like the flow and at times we struggle to keep up, but eventually we need to strike a balance , regain our resilience of Imaan, preparing us for the next moment.

Yet again I pause and ask, ‘who lays down the criterion for the balance’?

Scholars, People, me?

Ahhhh! Am I confused? Well…… certainly not, because…!

تَبَارَكَ الَّذِى نَزَّلَ الْفُرْقَانَ عَلَى عَبْدِهِ لِيَكُونَ لِلْعَـلَمِينَ نَذِيراً

Blessed be He Who sent down the criterion to His servant that
he may be a warner to all nations[25:1]

On my journey – What I saw

Every individual, working diligently to abide by the laws laid down by the creator.
Every house/family had a challenge that they were facing head on.
Every institute in search of excellence.
Every Muslim trying to be better than his neighbor or counterpart failing to forget we all belong to one UMMAH, one family with no borders and boundaries.

Alham du lillah!!!!

What more we need to do:

First define an approach/practice that lead to successful adaptation to life’s challenges second to identify what constitutes success in meeting those challenges.

 1. Set a goal – If we can imagine something, we can create it and/or conquer it. We
need to set our temporary goal/milestones that lead us to the ultimate goal.

وَأَن لَّيْسَ لِلإِنسَـنِ إِلاَّ مَا سَعَى

And that man can have nothing but what he strives for. [53:39]

2. Strive for gaining knowledge together – Allah shall definitely show his
awareness of guidance and insight leading to Jannah to those who exert themselves in

وَاعْتَصِمُواْ بِحَبْلِ اللَّهِ جَمِيعاً وَلاَ تَفَرَّقُوا

“And hold fast, all of you together, to the Rope of Allah, and be not divided among yourselves” [3:103]        

3. Practice our Deen – Allah has chosen us to be Muslims in the Ummah of the best
Nabi, Prophet Mohammed sws and has not placed any hardship/difficulty upon us.
We have a role model for us to follow by a person who practiced his Deen.

لَّقَدْ كَانَ لَكُمْ فِى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ أُسْوَةٌ حَسَنَةٌ لِّمَن كَانَ يَرْجُو اللَّهَ وَالْيَوْمَ الاٌّخِرَ وَذَكَرَ اللَّهَ كَثِيراً

             Indeed in the Messenger of Allah you have a good example to follow for him who hopes in Allah and the Last Day, and remembers Allah much [ 33:21]

Summing it up:

      Clarity of thought and action from a disciplined heart and mind, and commitment to
sharpening your self-awareness and commit to work at the boundaries of your
compassion – then we tap into a higher wisdom. It
informs and transforms
and we become an excellent instrument for a highest quality.
A wave is generated with a high frequency of Imaan.

So…What does it mean when we realize that we have within ourselves the capacity to reach the same heights of Imaan (faith) as the sahabah, or the same level of intellectual rigor as Imam Al-Bukhari or Sheikh ibn Taymiyyah, or the same purity and unwavering trust as Sayyidna Maryam? (May Allah be pleased with her)

Do we even realize that they were simply human beings who acknowledged the perfection with which Allah created them and strove their utmost to live up to that excellence, placing no boundaries or limitations upon themselves. They were not extraordinary people in their creation; they were only extraordinary because they accepted Allah’s words and thrust themselves utterly into the river of the Quran immersed themselves completely in tawakkul [trust in Allah], and taqwa [consciousness of Allah], allowing themselves to expand to fill the capacity of the flawless mold that Allah created them in, and refusing to allow themselves to be defined or demeaned by anyone else’s opinion. Nor did they allow themselves to be mentally or spiritually diminished or damaged by the harsh circumstances of life.

We acknowledge the fact that we are perfectly created. Or at least, we should be doing that now.

لَقَدْ خَلَقْنَا الإِنسَـنَ فِى أَحْسَنِ تَقْوِيمٍ
Verily, we created man in the best form [95:4]

  “Who made everything He has created good and He began the creation of man
from clay. Then He made his offspring from semen of despised water.
Then He fashioned him  in due proportion, and breathed into him the soul… [32:7-9]

Thus Allah gave us a perfect body and a spirit was blown into it. This body was not meant to be broken. It wasn’t meant to have limitations. The body is meant to heal, to fight, and to thrive; to move with grace and power. We are meant to be strong, healthy and resilient; capable of conquering any obstacle.

Somewhere along the way, we have become fragile – not all of us, but a great deal of us. We have grown sedentary and complacent. And, in doing so, we have lost our resiliency: we get sick more than we should, we are too fast, we get injured way too often, and we find ourselves unable to move like we used to. Fortunately for all of us, the body is wonderfully made, and it is capable of miraculous change-physically and spiritually.

As I said before, we are perfectly made – designed to be strong and resilient, not weak and frail in all walks of life including our IMAAN. We are meant to be capable of conquering almost anything: climbing any mountain, solving any problem, or simply playing Frisbee with our kids. The human body was created to have a purpose in life, not just to exist. We can regain our resilience and become the life conquerors we were meant to be. All we have to do is walk in the footsteps of the Prophet (Itteba- e -Sunnah). All we have to do is to hold the rope of Allah(the Quran) – all along the way striving to get BETTER and BETTER!!!

Factors that contribute to resilience include:

  • A positive view of yourself and conviction in your strengths and abilities
  • The capacity to manage strong feelings and impulses
  • Helping others
  • Good problem-solving and communication skills
  • Feeling in control
  • Seeking help and resources
  • Close relationships with family and friends
  • Seeing yourself as resilient (rather than as a victim)
  • Finding a positive meaning/purpose in your life despite difficult/traumatic events

Takabbal Allahu  minna wa mikum [May Allah accept from us and from you]






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Duwas for seeking knowledge


بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)


رَبِّ اشرَح لى صَدرى ﴿٢٥﴾ وَيَسِّر لى أَمرى ﴿٢٦﴾ وَاحلُل عُقدَةً مِن لِسانى
﴿٢٧﴾ يَفقَهوا قَولى

O my Lord! Expand for me my breast [with assurance] and ease for me my task and untie the knot from my tongue that they may understand my speech.[Taha:25-28]

رَبِّ زِدنى عِلمًا
My Lord, increase me in knowledge [Taha:114]

للَّهُمَّ  فَقِّهْنِىْ  فِىْ  الدِّيْنِ
O Allah! Grant me understanding of Deen.(Sahi Al Bukhari)

اَللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ عِلْمًا نَافِعًا , وَ رِزْقًا طَيَّبًا , وَ عَمَلاً مُتَقَبَّلاً

                     O Allah! I ask You for knowledge that is of benefit, a good provision and deeds that will be accepted.[Ibn Majah and others]

اللهُمَّ علِّمنا مَا يَنْفَعُنا وَانْفَعْنا بِما عَلَّمتَنَا وزِدْنَا عِلما                              
Allahumma allimna ma yanfa’unaa wanfa’naa bima allamtanaa wa zidnaa ‘ilmaa.

O Allah, help us learn what is beneficial to us, help us benefit from what You have enabled us to learn, and increase to our knowledge.

اللَّهُمَّ لاَ سَهْلاً إِلّاَ مَا جَعَلّتَهٌ سَهْلاً وَأَنّتَ تَجّعَلَ الحَزَنَ إِذَا شِئتَ سَهْلاً
Oh Allah! Nothing is easy except what You have made easy.
If You wish, You can make the difficult easy.
اللهم إني أعوذ بك من علم لا ينفع ومن قلب لا يخشع،
ومن نفس لا تشبع، ومن دعوة لا يستجاب لها
 O Allah! I seek refuge in You from the knowledge which is not beneficial, and from a heart which does not fear (You), and from desire which is not satisfied, and from prayer which is not answered.[Muslim]

Ibn Qayyim

More Duwas to be added , In sha Allah.
Keep Checking!


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Hadith of the month

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported,
The Messenger of Allah (sws) said:

‏اللهم أصلح لي ديني الذي هو عصمة أمري، وأصلح لي دنياي التي فيها معاشي، وأصلح لي آخرتي التي فيها معادي، واجعل الحياة زيادة لي في كل خير، واجعل الموت راحة لي من كل شر‏

“Allahumm-aslih li diniyalladhi huwa ‘ismatu amri, wa aslih li dunyaya-llati fiha ma’ashi, wa aslih li akhirati-llati fiha ma’adi, waj’alil-hayata ziyadatan li fi kulli khair, waj’alil-mauta rahatan li min kulli sharrin “

(O Allah, make my religion easy for me by virtue of which my affairs are protected, set right for me my world where my life exists, make good for me my Hereafter which is my resort to which I have to return, and make my life prone to perform all types of good, and make death a comfort for me from every evil).”

[Sahi Muslim , Book 17 Hadith 1472]

Can we contemplate on this Hadith with reference to our own lives?

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Emerge and see the Emergency

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

وَلَقَدْ أَرْسَلنَآ إِلَى أُمَمٍ مِّن قَبْلِكَ فَأَخَذْنَـهُمْ بِالْبَأْسَآءِ وَالضَّرَّآءِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَضَرَّعُونَ – فَلَوْلا إِذْ جَآءَهُمْ بَأْسُنَا تَضَرَّعُواْ وَلَـكِن قَسَتْ قُلُوبُهُمْ وَزَيَّنَ لَهُمُ الشَّيْطَـنُ مَا كَانُواّ يَعْمَلُونَ – فَلَمَّا نَسُواْ مَا ذُكِّرُواْ بِهِ فَتَحْنَا عَلَيْهِمْ أَبْوَابَ كُلِّ شَىْءٍ حَتَّى إِذَا فَرِحُواْ بِمَآ أُوتُواْ أَخَذْنَـهُمْ بَغْتَةً فَإِذَا هُمْ مُّبْلِسُونَ

Verily, We sent (Messengers) to many nations before you. And we seized them with extreme poverty and loss of health so that they might believe with humility. When our torment reached them, why then did they not believe with humility but their hearts became hardened, and Shaytan made fair-seeming to them that which they used to do. So, when they forgot (the warning) with which they had been reminded, We opened to them the gates of every (pleasant) thing, until in the midst of their enjoyment in that which they were given, all of a sudden, We took them to punishment, and lo! They were plunged into destruction with deep regrets and sorrows. (Surah Anam: 42, 43, 44)

 Surah Anam was revealed 1 year before Hijra and we see that these ayah’s have severe warnings.

Most often, we get into a fundamentally unhealthy divide in our thinking about faith and life.  We abstract our faith, putting it in the “spiritual” box, and consider our labor as separate, it goes in the “actual real life” box. We become good and pious while we pray, visit the holy pilgrimage (Mecca) or local masjids and when we are out of it we draw a line so that the goodness ‘does’nt much’ or rather ‘does not at all’ enter the real life. I wouldn’t apologize for being brutally honest here.

However for a believer the world and deen/religion are not different but one.
Spiritual box and Real life box are one… intertwined into each other.

It is the mercy of Allah swt towards his creation that he “sent messengers” who trained us not just spiritually but emotionally and mentally as well? Just like when a person is alive you cannot separate the spirit from his body, you cannot separate the spiritual box from the real life box. Our actions, or behavior’s, are the consequences of our values and beliefs which affect the way we think and feel . We as human beings don’t live in only the physical / material world. We have three other dimensions that are called spiritual, emotional and mental beings. So how we are BEING spiritually affects us emotionally ,mentally and physically and vice versa holds true as well.

Getting in detail with the above ayah’s

As mentioned earlier in the above verses, as well as in several other places in the Quran {[Quran 64:6] [Quran 40:22] [Quran 40:83] [Quran 35:25] [Quran 10:13]}, Allah swt “sent to us messengers” with clear teachings and proofs. These teachings help us build/reform our spiritual being which in result appears on our physical form i.e to become humble, have Khushoo, Ijz, Khudoo et al. Obligation of showing Tadarra/humility is required.

STEP 1: Spiritual training given so that it reflects on physical being.

But when people rejected the spiritual teachings of the Prophet, Allah wanted to teach them in another way. He seized them with extreme poverty and loss of health, so that at least through these physical afflictions they humble themselves and turn to him.

           STEP 2: Physical affliction given to reform spiritual being.

Yet… when people did not believe with Tadarra /humility and forgot the very reason why their physical afflictions were sent, ‘their hearts became hardened’. Note the word ‘became’. Every person is on Fitra(human indisposition), and has a soft heart, which later hardens due to their disobedience. As a result of this hard heart ‘Shaytan/Satan made fair-seeming to them that which they used to do’. The disobedient acts/deeds seemed fine. Reflecting on this current structure a lady without hijab, intermingling with opposite sex, drinking, gambling all seems SO COOL today!!!! If one see himself swearing, liking something bad then he needs to seek refuge in Allah as certainly such a person has been influenced by Shaitaan/Satan who adorns sins for us. Allah uses reproach hereفَلَوْلا (So why not). The objective of sending a calamity is to make a person humble. A person who does not humble himself certainly has a hard heart, instead of humbling himsef he becomes angry, dejects and distances away from Allah. A soft heart when goes through difficulties becomes humble, starts to cry, prays.

The cure of a hard heart is:-

  1. Recite the Quran in abundance. Greater the recitation, softer the heart.
  2. Reflect on the Quran.
  3. Abundance in Zikr of Allah(Kasratul Zikrullah)
  4. Companionship of righteous people.
  5. Be affectionate to those smaller than you(health, wealth, age, status)

Before Allah sends big punishments he sends small ones.

Then when they نَسُواْ forgot, didn’t care, neglected the Prophets warnings all the doors of prosperity were opened. All kinds of blessings were sent in abundance and continuous. All that they were deprived of before was given.

SURPRISING, ISIN’T IT? Do you see an Emergency at all?

 When people are happy, do they ever think distress will strike them? NO. They start to enjoy the temporary benefits thinking they have a long life ahead. Also they have a misconception that Allah is happy with them, and hence all this prosperity. At this peak stage of life when all seems fine and they lay amidst luxuries and comforts Allah put them to punishment, and they ‘plunged into destruction’ with ‘deep regrets and sorrows’ A poor person afflicted by calamity is less likely to suffer as compared to a rich person, due to the person’s body being adjusted to the comforts of the worldly life.

A believer on the contrary is never despaired of the mercy of Allah. If hardships fall on him, he becomes more humble and gets closer to Allah swt as he knows that it is a test from his Master which help to expiate his sins and raise his ranks.

Abu Sa’id and Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with them) reported that the Prophet SAW said: Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, a grief or mental worry or even the pricking of a thorn but Allah will expiate his sins on account of his patience.
[Al Bukhari & Muslim]

Until we emerge and see the emergency we will be washed
by the tide of prosperity……


Ways to stay humble

  1. See those who live tiers below you and still give generously of themselves. Humility redefines struggle and strength.
  2. Go without comforts and convenience for one day or better yet one week. Those who make life easier come into full view. Humility magnifies appreciation of others.
  3. Help someone with a physical challenge. Their tenacity is inspirational as it places struggle in a new light. Seeing the challenges of others inspires humility.
  4. Once a week, have someone teach you something they do well that you don’t. Knowing that you don’t know helps you stay humble.
  5. Become and stay curious with others. Ask one question each day to expand the mind and humbly learn from different views. Humility can be intensely interesting and enjoyable. Curiosity sparks humility.
  6. Ask for help from others who live humility in success. They will help you to overcome the fears and live the truth about humility. Humility is a shared journey.
  7. Observe the wonder of babies as they courageously learn EVERYTHING. They are humble not humiliated. Humility reveals what there is to learn

What has life taught you about staying humble? Will you share it here?

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Significance of Ramadan & Fasting

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

Ramadan – This word literally means “One that Burns” According to scholars, in this month the Sins are burnt away… therefore it is called Ramadan.
•The Month of Ramadan begins when the new Crescent is sighted on the 29th of Shabaan, otherwise it starts after the 30 days of Shabaan are completed.
•It is the month during which prophet hood was granted to Muhammad (sallalahu alayhe wasallam)
•Quran was revealed in this month.
•The Lailatul Qadr, the night which is better than a thousand months falls in this month.
•Battle of Badr was fought in this month
•Makkah was recaptured by the Muslims in this month.
•The doors of heaven are opened in this month and the doors of hell are closed.
•Devils are chained in this month.
•Mercy is poured down to Earth.

Fasting was prescribed on the previous nations also and is obligatory on the Muslims.

O you who have believed, decreed upon you is fasting as it was decreed upon those before you that you may become righteous.(Quran 2: 183)

The word “saum” is used for fasting in Arabic and its literal meaning is “to stop” or“to bring to a halt”. Thus it means to stop oneself from things which break the fast from dawn to dusk. F asting is obligatory on every adult, sane Muslim who has the ability to fast.

Fasting is only for Allah and its reward is only with Allah

The Prophet (saw) said, “(Allah said), ‘Every good deed of Adam’s son is for him except fasting; it is for Me. and I shall reward (the fasting person) for it. (Bukhari)
Two Pleasures for a fasting person
Prophet (saw) said: “There are two pleasures for the fasting person, one at the time of breaking his fast, and the other at the time when he will meet his Lord; then he will be pleased because of his fasting.”(Bukhari)

Allah loves the smell of the mouth of a fasting person

Prophet (saw) said, “Verily, the smell of the mouth of a fasting person is better to Allah than the smell of musk.” (Bukhari)
Ar-Raiyan is a special gate in Paradise exclusively for those who fast
The Prophet said, “There is a gate in Paradise called Ar-Raiyan, and those who observe fasts will enter through it on the Day of Resurrection and none except them will enter through it.”(Bukhari)

Sincere Fasting and Night Prayers erases all past sins

The Prophet (saw) said, “Whoever established prayers on the night of Qadr out of sincere faith and hoping for a reward from Allah, then all his previous sins will be forgiven; and whoever fasts in the month of Ramadan out of sincere faith, and hoping for a reward from Allah, then all his previous sins will be forgiven.”
The Prophet (saw) said: “Whoever establishes prayers during the nights of Ramadan faithfully out of sincere faith and hoping to attain Allah’s rewards (not for showing off), all his past sins will be forgiven.” (Bukhari)

Gates of Paradise are opened , Gates of Hell are closed and devils are chained

The Prophet (saw) said, “When the month of Ramadan comes, the gates of Paradise are opened and the gates of the (Hell) Fire are closed, and the devils are chained.”(Bukhari)

Superiority of Ramadan and Dhul-Hijjah

The Prophet (saw) said, “The two months of ‘Id i.e. Ramadan and Dhul-Hijja, do not decrease (in superiority).” (Bukhari)

Taken from :

A must read Ramadhan resource for all Muslim brothers and sisters
(By Usthadha Dr Farhat Hashmi)

Click to access AIWF-eBook-Shahru-Ramadan-English.pdf

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The Living dead

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

وَالَّذِي نَفْسِي بِيَدِهِ، لَتَأْمُرُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ، وَلَتَنْهَوُنَّ عَنِ الْمُنْكَرِ، أَوْ لَيُوشِكَنَّ اللهُ أَنْ يَبْعَثَ عَلَيْكُمْ عِقَابًا مِنْ عِنْدِهِ، ثُمَّ لَتَدْعُنَّهُ فَلَا يَسْتَجِيبَ لَكُم

By He in Whose Hand is my soul! You will enjoin righteousness and forbid evil, or Allah will send a punishment on you from Him. Then, you will supplicate to Him, but He will not accept your supplication.
[Imam Ahmad recorded that Hudhayfah bin Al-Yaman said that the Prophet said],
[At-Tirmidhi also recorded it and said, “This Hadith is Hasan.”]


Ibn Masood was once asked: “Who are the living dead?”
to which he replied: He who does not acknowledge the right as such, and does not reject the wrong.”

He is referring to the person described in the following agreed-upon hadith who consistently failed to reject wrong when tested.

The Prophet said: “Tests are shown to the hearts like a straw mat, straw by straw. Whichever heart accepts them, and absorbs them, gets a black spot placed on it, and whichever heart rejects them, gets a white, clear spot on it. This goes on until the hearts are of two types: a heart which is white, smooth, and clear like a polished stone which will not be harmed by further trials or tests for as long as the heavens and the earth last, and another dark and blemished; it is like a hook turned over the wrong way on which nothing can be hung – it neither acknowledges what is right nor rejects what is wrong, except for that which happens to coincide with its lusts and inclinations with which this heart has become fully absorbed.”

I am not living dead.

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بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

                        لاَ إِكْرَاهَ فِى الدِّينِ قَد تَّبَيَّنَ الرُّشْدُ مِنَ الْغَيِّ

“There is no compulsion in religion. Verily, the right path has become distinct from the wrong path ”[Sura Al-Baqarah, verse 256]

 All of us are born with the same attributes. All of us grow up with the same chances of creating a life full of significance and fulfillment. All of us start live swaddled in an affluence of choices and the freedom to choose our path with no boundaries or immediate deterrent.

Some enter the world with much favorable conditions while others enter this world with lesser privileges and a future rooted with challenges instead of opportunities.

Whatever the conditions, they clearly fuel a fire, ignite the passion to amount to more than the life we started with. It is the urge and desire that is required to overcome the obstacle and on the pursuit of a life we truly desire.

No matter what your circumstances, there are those of us that ‘choose’ to just be. And yet, there are those that ‘choose’ to be .
                                          The choice is ours in every walk of life

Allah says in the Quran that if human beings had not been endowed with freedom of choice, all those who dwell on earth would have been made to believe (in that which  Allah asks them to believe). But this was not Allah’s way.

He says, “Would you compel people to believe?”[Surah Yunus: 99], signifying that people are under no compulsion  by the Almighty to believe or disbelieve.

I would like you to recall the Cherokee legend.

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. ”It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.

One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego.
The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.

The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person too.”The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old chief simply replied, “The one you feed.” The one you keep giving more…

It’s your choice again.

According to the Quran, man is (born) free to aim at definite ends, free to choose between alternatives, free to choose good from evil and free to act in accordance with his WILL.

“Do whatever you will” [Sura Al-Fussilat, verse 40]

“The Truth [has come] from your Sustainer: let, then, him who wills, believe in it, and let him who wills, reject it.”[Al-Kahf, verse 29]

“Verily, We have shown him the Way: whether he be grateful or ungrateful (rests on his will)” [Surah Al-Mursalat:3]

Interestingly, we are where we are because of what we choose. It’s because of what we do. Not do something once in a while but what we do consistently. Many of us may feel that our daily choices are not that significant, but it’s important to understand that they do matter. They are the essential blocks that build our habits .

A simple example : How do we develop the habit of regular Salah, five times a day, every single day?

At seven years of age kids are commanded to start with a single prayer(say Asr/ the evening prayer). Until eight years of age it is recommended they stick to the same one prayer of Asr.

At eight they are required to pray 2 times(say Asr/evening and Magrib/at sunset) .

At nine an additional prayer is added ie the Ishaan/night prayer, along with the other two.

At ten, introducing two more prayers, would not be difficult at all, as the habit has been generated

Thus a life time habit has been inculcated in the child, by making the right daily choice, consistently.

Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-‘As: The Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Command your children to pray when they become seven years old, and beat them for it (prayer) when they become ten years old; and arrange their beds (to sleep) separately. [Sunan Abu Dawood 0495]

Help yourself by choosing the right way, because in life there are NO MULTIPLE CHOICES.


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Making friends not enemies

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

وَلاَ تَكُونُواْ كَالَّذِينَ تَفَرَّقُواْ وَاخْتَلَفُواْ مِن بَعْدِ مَا جَآءَهُمُ الْبَيِّنَـتُ وَأُوْلَـئِكَ لَهُمْ عَذَابٌ عَظِيمٌ
And be not as those who divided and differed among themselves after the clear proofs had come to them. It is they for whom there is an awful torment [4:105]

The world is full of warring people: brothers, sisters, spouse, communities, nations –no one is free from this affliction. The meanings of words such as brother or spouse have become defunct, now referring to a mere biological/ legal connection rather than the deeper relationships of love companionship and friendship.

The cause of the warring?

 Misunderstanding, old rivalries, grudges and conflicting “VALUE SYSTEMS”. The last, I believe goes to the root of it all. Many would like to believe that people are inherently deceptive, schemingly selfish or aggressive. However this is not true.

What is it, that is intrinsic to people in their value system?

Well, it’s their hierarchical structures of things they value most in their lives. This maybe money, power, adventure, security, health, career, studies, fame, the opposite sex, family, friends or even things like food, sports, dancing, partying and sometimes something much deeper such as philanthropy, social work or God. Any one of these can take precedence over all others if it is top of a person’s value system. We cannot however change a person or renounce his values under rational explanation, justifying one set of values as being better than another. Value system lies at a deeper level than intellectual systems.

For example a train crashed into a bridge and fell into the river below. The carriages began sinking rapidly as water flooded into them. Rescue teams arrived shortly but water had already reached chin level. One young couple was trapped with their child. Rescuers reached into the compartment to pull out the couple. Instead they handed over their baby and perished as their compartment submerged.

An act of heroism or foolishness?

Both views can be argued vehemently. But arguing changes nothing. For that particular couple, there existed no other option. Saving their baby first was the only thing to do.

Understanding that other people don’t always share the same value systems we do, is the first and most crucial step towards creating friendship or resolving strife. It makes it easier for us to let go more often. Too many discussions on trivial matters such as distance from point A to B, religion, faith etc end up in an argument and bitter exchanges.

Understanding their belief system/value system first would be the first step.

We often get influenced or confused by history or theories taught in school and college, WHY?

It is due to lack of knowledge, lack of our belief system, lack of our value system!

To think on similar lines it is very crucial therefore to bind ourselves, our family, our youth to one value system, one belief system, one true religion! If the value system is same then hearts come together and thinking becomes alike.
This starts by gaining the knowledge of Deen/religion.

Signing Off: ‘And the believers, men and women, are protecting friends of one another, they enjoin the right and forbid the wrong’ [9:71]

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بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

 As I sat down cheerfully, looking outside the window, thinking of a title as Alkalaamblog finished it’s first year, my mind lingered on to all the events that occurred since then. It’s amazing how time flew by.

The look outside seemed to be more of a stare as my mind was still thinking of the title, but I felt the cheerfulness gradually fade away into a shroud of silence.A group of Muslim youth(mixed gender) laughing and …
Our Muslim Youth…they and their timeping

At this very instance Sura Al-Asr, struck me.

وَالْعَصْرِ- إِنَّ الإِنسَـنَ لَفِى خُسْرٍ- إِلاَّ الَّذِينَ ءامَنُواْ وَعَمِلُواْ الصَّـلِحَـتِ وَتَوَاصَوْاْ بِالْحَقّ وَتَوَاصَوْاْ بِالصَّبْر-
“By Al-`Asr. Verily, man is in loss. Except those who believe and do righteous deeds, and recommend one another to the truth, and recommend one another to patience” [103:1-3]

Al-`Asr is the time in which the movements of the Children of Adam occur, whether good or evil. At-Tabarani recorded from `Abdullah bin Hisn Abi Madinah that he said, “Whenever two men from the Companions of the Messenger of Allah used to meet, they would not part until one of them had recited Surat Al-`Asr in its entirety to the other, and one of them had given the greetings of peace to the other.” Ash-Shafi`i said, “If the people were to ponder on this Surah, it would be sufficient for them.”  (Ibn Kathir)

 Allahu Akbar, that’s the title….

Although I was intending to celebrate my blog’s first life cycle, the plight of our youth steered my direction to write this article, merging it with time.

LA HAWLA WA LAA QUWWATA ILLAA BILLAH ”there is no power nor might except with/by Allah”,
The Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said:
“On the Day of Resurrection the feet of the son of Adam (man) will not move till he is questioned about four things: how he spent his lifetime, how he spent his youth, from where he acquired his wealth and how he spent it, and what he did with his knowledge.” (Tirmidhi).

One thing common in the above Hadeeth is TIME….

The Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said:“Make the most of five things before five others: life before death, health before sickness, free time before becoming busy, youth before old age, and wealth before poverty.” (Saheeh al-Jaami’)

Great things happen, but never by accident.
Just as much as it is the need of the community, it is also the aspiration of the parents that his son or daughter to be a teacher, doctor, engineer, scientist, researcher, pilot, driver et all.

Little do we realize (leave about thinking or pondering) we need to add to the cart a Da’ee.  A full time Da’ee. At least a minimum of one full time Da’ee from EVERY Muslim family is necessary. It is the due responsibility of the entire Muslim community (Parents, Teachers, Masjids, and Social organizations) to invest themselves and their children in the advancement of the Deen.  We must remember that while we need tons of them, for many of our youth it will not be their forte.

It is imperative, then, that we push them to engage society and culture from a deeply Islamic viewpoint.  We should not allow our kids to cruise by in school–we should push them from their earliest years to be leaders, thinkers, movers and shakers for Islam.  We cannot relinquish this work to just our Imam’s and scholar’s as we did for many years.  We need to be profoundly engaged in the spreading of Deen because
Tick Tock, Tick Tock…..
Life really is short, and we will be following our ancestors very soon.

As expressed by Imam Hassan Al-Banna, “Time is life itself.”

Say: “The angel of death, who is set over you, will take your souls. Then you shall be brought to your Lord.”[Sajdah: 11]

“Our youth are the leaders of tomorrow.  With that, I conclude.

It has been a blessing from Allah swt to have reached this milestone.  Blessings to all reading this out there, and Jazak Allahu Khair for reading.
May Allah swt bestow on us from our wives and our offspring the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders of those who have Taqwa.

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Ghufraanaka, ya Rabbana!

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم

(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

If only, these words could speak could they be able to demonstrate the intensity of desperation to get back to my regular schedule. A schedule wherein there was time for my MASTER, my Rabb…

As I boarded the flight and settled in, I was reflecting on the means of transportations that Allah has blessed us with. The pace and speed with which each one operates is phenomenal, Subhan Allah.

Right from a bicycle to a bike, a car and now a plane. Interestingly, humans like me get fascinated by speed and race….and instantly I tried to make an analogy……

When Allah speaks about duniya he says
                                     “هُوَ الَّذِى جَعَلَ لَكُمُ الاٌّرْضَ ذَلُولاً فَامْشُواْ فِى مَنَاكِبِهَا”
“He it is who has made the earth subservient to you; so walk in the paths
thereof “ [Mulk:15]

Allah swt tells us to walk through duniya – Just like our bicycles.

When he mentions his remembrance he says
                                          “فَاسْعَوْاْ إِلَى ذِكْرِ اللَّهِ”
then hasten (Fas`aw) to the remembrance of Allah?” [Jumu ‘ah:9]

The best among the many reminders of Allah is the Quran. Reminder is not new information, it’s something you knew but forgot.Saii means to rush, walk fast. So when it comes to the Zikr of Allah he says walk quickly towards it (don’t just walk but walk quickly/do saii) – Just like the bikes.

When he speaks about Jannah he says
                                        “وَسَارِعُواْ إِلَى مَغْفِرَةٍ مِّن رَّبِّكُمْ وَجَنَّةٍ”
“And march forth in the way (which leads to) forgiveness from your Lord and for Paradise[Ale Imran: 133]

It is also mentioned sabikhoona -race towards it [Hadeed:21] , try to get ahead of one another in good deeds and he also says sarioo (run/be quick/march forth towards Jannah) -Just like the cars.

And when he speaks about himself he says
                                        “فَفِرُّواْ إِلَى اللَّهِ ”
                                 “flee to/ run to allah” [Zaayaraat:50]
SUBHAN ALLAH-Just like the planes/ rockets et al

The question for us to ponder is why is it that when it comes to Duniya we rarely walk and when it comes to Allah we hardly run?

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Ya Rabb, I miss you….

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم

(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

كُنتُمْ خَيْرَ أُمَّةٍ أُخْرِجَتْ لِلنَّاسِ تَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَتَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنْكَرِ وَتُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّهِ

You are the best of peoples ever raised up for mankind; you enjoin Al-Ma`ruf (all that Islam has ordained) and forbid Al-Munkar (all that Islam has forbidden), and you believe in Allah [3:110]


This is real time conversational email between me and a very dear friend of mine whom I only knew through emails (spoken just once over phone discussing about an Islamic course).

I could not help but post it as it was an immense revival of my spirit, a boost to my Imaan at the time needed most and a motivational message that each one of us can benefit from.

This was my email to her:

Asalam a laikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu,

Dear Sister —–,

Currently I am in India for an extended stay(came in May) for some family obligations and In sha Allah some Dawah.

As I write this, my heart is filled with sorrow, eyes filled with tears and discomfort in my entire body. It has been four months and I feel suffocated already here, in spite of being amidst family and friends.

Alham du lillah for Ramadan, it kept me moving forward, but now I feel I’m missing my Rabb, I’m missing my masjids, I’m missing my friends, I don’t know why I’m writing this to you….but please bear  with me…..

Hard as I am trying I can’t organize my schedule, the kids are unmanageable here, It’s all about shadis and khaana pakaana here.

It’s about your dresses and zewar and dawat’s here.

It is sad that family members are far astray. You tell them anything and there begins another story.

People are so busy here, astaghfirullah they don’t have time for Salah, however they make time for movies.

There is FITNA all around sister, Deen keeps diminishing here, hard as much as I’m holding it, Shaitaan is behind me like crazy.

People’s hearts have hardened, Duniya has become the prime factor in lives here, every day I feel the Ayats of the Quran are speaking by itself…

Ya Rabbi I miss you….

My friend’s reply (the reply was immediate too, which doubled the effect on me as it was the same state of hopless feeling, unlike how it would have been had I received it a day or probably a few hours later)

WalaikumSalam wrwb my dear sister —–,

I feel blessed that you’d share with this me. Thank you. Everything that occurs in the Universe or happens is surely as Allahswt’s willed it. Subhan Allah. There’s a reason that Allah swt knows why you would write to me. Subhan Allah

I had goose bumps as I read this. It reminded me exactly of how I felt when I visited my parents/relatives in India last time. I couldn’t have worded my feelings and frustrations better than you did. Masha Allah

Its like everyone out there is SO busy all the time, yet at the end of the day nobody has really achieved anything really important, and worst nobody even realizes it. HEEDLESSNESS! They think “it’s all good.”

And they are all really good people too in general. But misplaced priorities, which is a result of just “LA ILMI” mostly.

Deen is just a side dish or a condiment out there. It’s not the main course. That’s how it was passed on to them and they haven’t tasted anything better.

Mafoom of a Hadith says, that people who make duniya there priority Allahswt scatters all their affairs and they tire themselves out running after those affairs. And as for those whose priority is Deen, Allahswt streamlines (arranges) their affairs and duniya falls at their feet and they only take from it whatever they need. (Not want, because duniya is anyway not their priority.)

This is exactly what we see over there. It’s just that they are unaware of their “purpose in life” and hence do not live meaningful lives.

There’s where I feel even more grateful to Allahswt. Had HE not brought me here, I would have been living my life exactly like them. They are me, just five years back. Allahswt changed me, and He can change everyone of them.

May He swt guide us and through us guide others. Ameen

It’s such an honor and a privilege that Allahswt chose us to understand His book and His deen. And honor always comes with responsibilities. There’s a reason why Allahswt has put you there, this day, this time, in this situation.

Make duaa to Allahswt to make you understand what He wants from you and to guide you to do as much as you can to please Him. And know that all He expects from you in any situation is just what you are capable of. He just expects from us that we convey the truth to whoever we can. Even one or two is too many insha Allah. Convincing is not our forte. Even if you sometimes find it hard to even convey, you always have Duaa. our most powerful weapon. Alhamdullilah.

Don’t let Shaitaan make you feel low. Don’t let the results frustrate you. Allahswt  only takes your efforts into account. True, the environment affects our level of emaan, our worship. But even a little in such an environment if worth so much more in a more suitable one.

A hadith says, “The person who sticks tightly to my Sunnah, at the time when the rest of my Ummah will be in a state of discord & disunity – will be like one who is holding on with his bare hands to ember.”

Too much of dunya does make our hearts feel heavy. But make Dhikr all the time, anywhere. Insha Allah you’ll start feeling your hotline to Him lighted up brilliantly again.

There’s a reason why all the Prophets of Allahswt worked as shepherds. Its how Allahst prepared them for what was to follow for them. The Messenger of Allaah(S) said: “The believer who mixes with people and bears their annoyance with patience will have a greater reward than the one who does not mix with people and does not put up with their annoyance.”

Even for your children, you might not see it now, but its such a learning experience. Out there, they might seem a tad bit out of order, but they have been given this opportunity to learn other life skills , people skills, etc. which one only gets to learn in societies like those in a natural way. Once they are back in their original place, you’ll see they’ll start being as they were before this, only a little more experienced insha Allah.

May Allahswt protect you and your family from all kinds of harms and fitnah. Ameen

May Allahswt allow you to always feel the sweetness of Imaan. Ameen

May this situation only make you connection with your Rabb even stronger. Ameen

With lots of duaas.

Take care

WasSalam wrwb

I couldn’t have expressed this any better and more so I can’t capture the moments and feelings that two friends unknown to each other (united only for the love of Allah) leave such a great impact on not just one but many a lives.

My Dear brothers and sisters in Islam and humanity, it does not matter whether we know each other or not, it does not matter whether we belong to the same class, creed color or not…what really matters at the end of the day to bring us to a common platform is our belief in the existence of one GOD and that the Prophet Mohammed peace be upon him, is the messenger of God.

I sign off reminding myself:
Regarding the obligation of da‘wah in this age, Sh. Ibn Baaz also said:“At a time when there is a shortage of callers, when evil is prevalent andignorance dominates, da‘wah becomes fard ‘ayn on everyone according to their ability.”

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Significance of Ramadan & Fasting

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

Significance of Ramadan & Fasting

Ramadan – This word literally means “One that Burns” According to scholars, in this month the Sins are burnt away… therefore it is called Ramadan.
•The Month of Ramadan begins when the new Crescent is sighted on the 29th of Shabaan, otherwise it starts after the 30 days of Shabaan are completed.
•It is the month during which prophet hood was granted to Muhammad (sallalahu alayhe wasallam)
•Quran was revealed in this month.
•The Lailatul Qadr, the night which is better than a thousand months falls in this month.
•Battle of Badr was fought in this month
•Makkah was recaptured by the Muslims in this month.
•The doors of heaven are opened in this month and the doors of hell are closed.
•Devils are chained in this month.
•Mercy is poured down to Earth.

Fasting was prescribed on the previous nations also and is obligatory on the Muslims.

O you who have believed, decreed upon you is fasting as it was decreed upon those before you that you may become righteous.(Quran 2: 183)

The word “saum” is used for fasting in Arabic and its literal meaning is “to stop” or“to bring to a halt”. Thus it means to stop oneself from things which break the fast from dawn to dusk. F asting is obligatory on every adult, sane Muslim who has the ability to fast.
Fasting is only for Allah and its reward is only with Allah

The Prophet (saw) said, “(Allah said), ‘Every good deed of Adam’s son is for him except fasting; it is for Me. and I shall reward (the fasting  person) for it. (Bukhari)
Two Pleasures for a fasting person
Prophet (saw) said: “There are two pleasures for the fasting  person, one at the time of breaking his fast, and the other at the time when he will meet his Lord; then he will be pleased because of his fasting.”(Bukhari)

Allah loves the smell of the mouth of a fasting person

Prophet (saw) said, “Verily, the smell of the mouth of a fasting person is better to Allah than the smell of musk.” (Bukhari)
Ar-Raiyan is a special gate in Paradise exclusively for those who fast
The Prophet said, “There is a gate in Paradise called Ar-Raiyan, and those who observe fasts will enter through it on the Day of Resurrection and none except them will enter through it.”(Bukhari)

Sincere Fasting and Night Prayers erases all past sins

The Prophet (saw) said, “Whoever established prayers on the night of Qadr out of sincere faith and hoping for a reward from Allah, then all his previous sins will be forgiven; and whoever fasts  in the month of Ramadan out of sincere faith, and hoping for a reward from Allah, then all his previous sins will be forgiven.”
The Prophet (saw) said: “Whoever establishes prayers during the nights of Ramadan faithfully out of sincere faith and hoping to attain Allah’s rewards (not for showing off), all his past sins will be forgiven.” (Bukhari)

Gates of Paradise are opened , Gates of Hell are closed and devils are chained

The Prophet (saw) said, “When the month of Ramadan comes, the gates of Paradise are opened and the gates of the (Hell) Fire are closed, and the devils are chained.”(Bukhari)

Superiority of Ramadan and Dhul-Hijjah

The Prophet (saw) said, “The two months of ‘Id i.e. Ramadan  and Dhul-Hijja, do not decrease (in superiority).” (Bukhari)

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Me… the better or bitter half?

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

                      الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَآءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ وَبِمَآ أَنفَقُواْ مِنْ أَمْوَلِهِمْ فَالصَّـلِحَـتُ قَـنِتَـتٌ حَـفِظَـتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللَّهُ وَاللَّـتِى تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِى الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلاَ تَبْغُواْ عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلاً إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيّاً كَبِيراً

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are Qanitat, and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard. As to those women on whose part you see ill conduct, admonish them,
and abandon them in their beds, and beat them, but if they return to obedience, do not seek a means against them. Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great [4:34]

 Conversation 1:
Wife (Screaming): That time will never come, NEVER.
Husband (Browsing the laptop): In sha Allah give it some more time and we will buy
                                                       that house, don’t you have any other topic to talk?
Child (Comes crying): Mama, Api pushed me…*crying*, Hug me mama. MAMA….
Mama (Screaming and banging her pots): Go to your father, you all are just the same!!!!
Father (still on laptop, now frustrated): Don’t bother me, go to your mother!!

Conversation 2:
Husband(Browsing the laptop): Ma sha  Allah, wasn’t that an awesome house?
Wife (Smiling): In sha Allah, we will have it someday. What’s more important to buy a
                           house on mortgage or to please Allah?
Child (Comes crying): Mama, Api pushed me…*crying*, Hug me mama. MAMA…
Mama (smiling): Go to your father, you are all just the same!!!
Father (still on laptop): Picks the child up and put her on his lap as he is still browsing.

Ironically today we live in a world where one needs an occasion to express love to the other. A fortnight before Mother’s Day and a month before Father’s I sense a kind of hustle behind my back.  My seven-year old is practising her arabic poem “Ummi Ummi Uhibbu Ummi/MommyMommy I love you Mommy” for mother’s day.

Alham du lillah, although she shows her love every day to us, the point I wanted to bring to attention is the world has restricted us to exclusive days(Mother’s day, Father’s day, Valentine’s Day) to express our love to exclusive people. 
Islam does not restrict us to A DAY, a sheer relief!

As I sat contemplating about the remarkable behaviour of parents such as Luqman Hakim, Asiya (Alaihis salaam), Musa (Alaihis salaam’s) mother to write for,Umm, what do you call it, yes, Mother’s Day, I couldn’t have done much justice but not to reflect on its root cause and that is on the spouses.

Apparently, kids don’t need just “A good mother” or “A good father” but rather we very often overlook giving children what they deeply want and need the most —“a mother and father who love each other”. There cannot be a healthy parent-child relationship without a healthy husband-wife relationship. The above two conversations  come into effect here!

Remember the quote: “The best thing a father can do for his child is to love their mother.”

I  choose this ayah as it perfectly teaches us the responsibilities of both the man and the wife simultaneously. If we as spouses fail to educate ourselves, our responsibilities, in the light of the Quran then I fear that children learn everything from us — through every Khaul/word and Feil/deed — whether we parents like it or not.

Directly and indirectly, parents educate their children on all kinds of things— love, communication, commitment, problem solving et al.

Also what more a reason than to dedicate this article to my two nieces and my lesson incharge who are soon getting married, In sha Allah. May Allah bless their marriage and make their spouses the coolness of their eyes and from their progeny leaders of the muslim nation. Ameen  

Strikingly, this ayah comes right after the Ayahs of inheritance. I will not elaborate the details of the flow of the Ayahs.

 So…….getting straight on track, the ayah starts with the role of the man.

 Allah  says that the man is the Qawaam/Guardian/Manager/Maintainer upon the women. He is the Qawwam Allaa Kulli Haal/ Manager upon every state.
In Islam, man is given the responsibility of his family, and it goes unsaid that if one is given responsibility then one needs authority. We cannot have two leaders run an institute, home etc.
Responsibility of the man endeavours every aspect of the women which includes her care, protection, finance, food, clothing, adab/manners and most importantly ensuring that she is growing mentally and spiritually in her Deen. Well, if he is responsible for the food for the body wouldn’t he be responsible for food (knowledge) for the soul.

The Ayah further elaborates as to why men are the Qawaam-

  1. Because of the Fadl of Allah (Fadl literally means to give extra). Allah has given the men more strength than the women in the following aspects:
                   a. Quwwah Zahiri/Apparent Strength – which is physical/ bodily strength
                   b. Quwwah Batila/Internal Strength –Patience/Sabr, Azm/Determination,
                        Shujha/Bravery, Akhl/Intellect.
  2. Because men are required to spend their wealth for the maintenance of women.

 From here the mode shifts to the qualities of the women (wives).

  1. Those women who are  صـلِحَـتُ  (righteous). They strike a balance by giving the Haqh of Allah and Haqh of their husband.
  2. Those women who are  قَـنِتَـتٌ  (obedient) to Allah and their husbands. The key factor of Qunoot is that their obedience is of humility with constancy
  3. Those women who are حَـفِظَـتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللَّهُ   (guard in their husband’s absence what Allah requires them to guard) – What has Allah asked them to guard?
          The Al Ghaib(that which is hidden):
                     a. They hide from other people their private parts, secrets of their husbands,
                          chastity and honour.
                     b. They protect husband’s property, wealth, children.

 Narrated Abu Huraira (RadiAllahuunhu): The Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “The best women are the riders of the camels and the righteous among the women of Quraish. They are the kindest women to their children in their childhood and the more careful women of the property of their husbands.” [Sahi Al-Bukhari]

Once Ibrahim (Alaihis salaam) came to Ismaeel (Alaihis salaam) place when he was not at home. He asked his wife where he was. She replied that he was gone in search of sustenance. Ibrahim (Alaihis salaam) asked her how her condition of living was. She replied that she was in extreme difficulty and pain. Ibrahim (Alaihis salaam) told her to convey his greetings to Ismaeel (Alaihis salaam) and to tell him to change his door frame. When Ismaeel (Alaihis salaam) returned home, he perceived the arrival of someone and asked his wife who had come. She narrated the entire episode and conveyed the message as well. Ismaeel (Alaihis salaam) told her that it was his father who had come and he suggested that he (Ismaeel) divorce his wife. Ismaeel (Alaihis salaam) complied with his father’s wish and divorced her. He later married a second wife. *SHUDDER*

A woman who complains about the private matters is leaking her husband’s secrets. The poor man is striving his best. Who gives the wife the authority to talk about him????
Sadly in today’s era it goes unnoticed and unsaid when women/girls talk of every single matter to their parents, sibling’s and even friends. Sometimes, if the wife doesn’t say anything we find probing questions from the others. Alas, this arises in a society with lack of knowledge….not the secular knowledge but rather the religious knowledge, knowledge of the Quran.

Eventually we see the others have no respect left for the women’s husband. If people cannot respect your husband, then I’m sorry they will not respect YOU! We need to  bear in mind that respecting your husband is respecting yourself, and secrets should always remain secrets!!!!!
Has not Allah protected the wife through her husband? Certainly, he has.

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (RadiAllahuunhu)said: It was said to the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam)Which of women is best? He said: “The one who makes (her husband) happy when he looks at her, obeys him when he tells her to do something, and does not disobey him with regard to herself or her wealth in a way that he dislikes.” Narrated by al-Nasaa’i (3131); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa’i

Subhan Allah, little did I realise the importance to this level to obey one’s husband before my study with the Qur‘an. Ignorance is indeed bliss!

The men are now addressed again وَاللَّـتِى تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ (and those women you fear their rebellion/ill conduct), Nushooz means to be high, lifts up her head to another, ill-treatment. This is understood when a woman refuses to do that which is obligated on her by Allah. She also disobeys, shows disrespect, ignores, dislikes, acts above her husband. She does not give him his Hakh which is Ita’ah, Qunooth.
We mostly see women treat their husbands either like a child or a servant and she has the audacity to say we are being FRANK, but the Qur’an says we are being in Nushooz.

Subhan Allah!

So what does Allah tell the husbands to do?
Allah mentions the order of steps to be taken by the man, gradually one after another for disciplining the wife. Tarbiyah/ Disciplining to another should be done in stages as Islah/Reformation does not happen in a single stage, method or style.

  • فَعِظُوهُنَّ (admonish them) –The first remedial step to be taken is the TALKING STAGE. The men are required to talk to their women, explain to them, calm them down. 
    Waaz means an effective speech which will soften their hearts by mentioning the rewards and reminding them the consequences leading them to repent.
  • وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِى الْمَضَاجِعِ  – The  second remedial step is the IGNORING STAGE.  The men are advised to ignore the women in their beds.
    Generally ignorance from her man gives the woman the worst of feelings.
     هْ جُ رُ  is to leave or abandon either by body, tongue or heartThe men are told, to separate their beds i.e. either not to sleep in the same bed, room or house only so that the women may realise their mistake and correct herself. Another important wisdom behind this is that most women need time to themselves. This will make them think on their own, and this space without her husband along with the guilt in her heart would result in a yearning to get back in her husband’s arms. The arms where she finds solace and tranquility, peace and contentment.
  •  وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ – The third remedial step is the PUNISHMENT STAGE. It is now (in the third stage) the men are given permission/allowance to STRIKE their wives (not HIT, BELT etc). This again is for the purpose of Islaah/reformation and not Ijrah/ to give a wound to them.Also one must make sure it is a light striking.Ibn Abbas the most famous interpreter of the Quran, when asked about this verse and the way to beat the wife, answered “You beat them with a miswak”.
    Miswak is a thin wooden stick Arabs use to clean their teeth. Also men are discouraged to strike on the women’s face.

However, sadly most men take this either as the first step towards reformation of their women or permission for domestic violence.

                       The Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said:
“Fear Allah with regard to women, for you have taken them as a trust from  
                                             Allah” (Muslim)

“The best of you is the one who is best towards his wife, and I am the best of you towards 
                           my wives.” (Tirmidhi, Ibn Maajah, saheeh by al-Albaani).

The reason behind the “revelation” is detailed by various Muslim scholars. The quote below comes from Razi’s commentary, “At-Tafsir al-Kabir,” on 4:34

“A women complained to Muhammad (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) that her husband slapped her on the face, (which was still marked by the slap). At first the prophet said to her: “Get even with him”, but then added: “Wait until I think about it”. Later on, Allah supposedly revealed 4:34 to Muhammad (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam), after which the prophet said: “We wanted one thing but Allah wanted another, and what Allah wanted is best.”

We have to understand this ayah came as permission/ an allowance and not as a right for the man to hit her women.

 The Ayah ends فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلاَ تَبْغُواْ عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلاً إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيّاً كَبِيرا

Subhan Allah, Allah says, “then if they obey you (after applying some or all of the stages of reformation), take no further actions against them and do not make excuses to punish them. Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great”

After disciplining a person, don’t remind them of their past. People work very hard to change themselves tasting every pain and bitterness to reform them and after all their effort, what do we do? Either repeatedly or at times remind them of their past and make that as an excuse to harass, punish or beat them.

Narrated Abu Huraira (Radhiallaho Anho) the Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “’The most perfect of believers in belief is the best of them in character. The best of you
                          are those who are the best to their women. “[at-Tirmidhi]

How could I possibly end without telling my mother(my husbands mother is more mine by heart and not by law) and my mother, that “Ummi Ummi Uhibbu Ummi”
May Allah bless our mother’s, father’s, husband’s, wive’s and kids with the best in Deen, Duniya and Akhira and increase them in beneficial knowledge.

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I’m paying my taxes for my retirement

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

مَّن ذَا الَّذِى يُقْرِضُ اللَّهَ قَرْضًا حَسَنًا فَيُضَاعِفَهُ لَهُ أَضْعَافًا كَثِيرَةً وَاللَّهُ يَقْبِضُ وَيَبْسُطُ وَإِلَيْهِ تُرْجَعُونَ 

“Who is he that will lend to Allah a goodly loan so that He may multiply it to him many times and it is Allah that decreases or increases (your provisions), and unto Him you shall return”[2:245]

Tax season is in the air, and all of us seem to be busy filing them. It’s some serious matter you see!

Well….ever asked a bunch of small kids “Who wants a candy?” and quick comes the reply “Me, me, me….”

Now, who wants an exclusive fully furnished grandeur style lofty mansions or villa’s with assistants at your beck and call? Who wants to attend parties along with people of the executive ranks, positions and caliber…and in those parties the finest foods one can dine on…to your heart’s content…without being disturbed by thoughts of diabetes or cholesterol et al
Who wants robes of silk and brocade? Ah…Who wants “pretty women” walking down the aisle errr….Garden, the Garden of Jannah…….

In life nothing comes for free; we have realized this and seen by now that our level of hard work determines our level of success in this world. All this hard work is to earn a life full of bliss for today as we’re young and save for tomorrow when we grow old and RETIRE…..
If acquiring duniya is not easy how could we expect any less in acquiring the Akhirah?

In the above Ayah Allah is Interrogating us, “مَّن /who, Who is it that wants to give a good loan to Allah?
A LOAN TO ALLAH…….why would ALLAH want a LOAN, and what is this loan to Allah?

Loan is not limited to money alone. It extends from time, efforts, age, talents, strengths.
Any charity/sadaqah spend in the cause of Allah / fee sabeelillah be it one’s HALAL wealth, talent, strength, a part of a person’s day, his prime youth to support, promote, spread the deen of Allah.
It includes learning or teaching the knowledge of deen/religion, spending in sadaqah/charity (person spends on his family, relatives and poor).

Wonder why a question is used, Allah could have just “stated” the ayah…Well amazingly, this question is for the purpose of Tashweek (Shawk) i.e. to arouse a desire within us to do the action, to make us interested in it, he gives us a yearning to do this, just like we asked the kids the question above, “Who wants a candy?”

Subhan Allah, whenever we give anybody anything don’t we want something in return…Well of course we want back the money that we lent, definitely we want back a better gift, we want praise or if not at least we want “Jazak Allahu Khair or Thank you” even if we did it for the sake of Allah, that’s how humans are wired, exceptions exist, of course. *laughs*
Well, no kidding, but definitely yes as long as its قَرْضًا / loan, it should be returned back. (That’s a different story that we borrow something never to return it). Literally قَرْضًا means to cut something. In other words a person is cutting a portion of his wealth and giving it to another (قَرْضًا is not given on borrowed money, just reminded me of the credit cards) with a condition that it is going to be returned.
In Qard the time period is not fixed (can be in duniya or Akhirah).However, if the time period (date) if fixed then it’s called دين /Dain.

Allah swt has used the word Qard, not Dain- so the return is definite and many times greater than what we give. He is making us realize that our efforts will not be wasted.
But can we give anything to Allah and say this is a Qard? No, it should be حَسَنًا / beautiful, in the tangible or intangible sense. It should be something worthy of being liked, appreciated, that which a person spends in the path of Allah without expecting any worldly benefits, solely seeking the pleasure of Allah.

Conditions of Qard e hasana:-

  1. Iklaas lilah (Sincerity for Allah) – Giving sincerely to earn the pleasure of Allah. The focus should be in pleasing Allah. E.g.  A person who volunteers does not expect praise.
  2. Halal/Lawful Spending – The money spent should be Halal. Allah is pure and accepts that which is pure. E.g. Bank Interest cannot be donated to Masjid
  3. It should be spent on the right cause, way. E.g. One cannot buy something haram for the family as spending on family is sadaqah/charity.
    Good intention does not justify a bad action.
  4. Do not follow charity by Mann (reminding the other of the favour) or Adhaa(giving injury to them by words)
  5. Expect the reward from Allah alone. He will   فَيُضَاعِفَهُ لَهُ أَضْعَافًا كَثِيرَةً multiply the reward many many times. Dhif is to add or increase something so that it becomes double or more, not limited to two times but rather many times with respect to weight, amount, effort, opportunities.

مَّثَلُ الَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ أَمْوَلَهُمْ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ كَمَثَلِ حَبَّةٍ أَنبَتَتْ سَبْعَ سَنَابِلَ فِي كُلِّ سُنبُلَةٍ مِّاْئَةُ
حَبَّةٍ وَاللَّهُ يُضَـعِفُ لِمَن يَشَآءُ وَاللَّهُ وَسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ 

The parable of those who spend their wealth in the way of Allah is that of a grain (of corn); it grows seven ears, andeach ear has a hundred grains. Allah gives manifold increase to whom He wills.And Allah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knower”[2:261]

IMAGINE for a split second, someone in duniya is willing to give a 700% guaranteed return on your investment, would you be in a jeopardy? Would you?  Well,  I’d rather be more covet.

Imagine if we preserve our energy, wealth, time et al, would I get that energy to keep me moving a little more, would my time go anyway? You got it! Then why my reticence why my reluctance in giving?

It is Allah alone who can يَقْبِضُ   limit, constrict, hold back money, time, age, knowledge, talent. He gives limited resources to some and وَيَبْسُطُ expands for others or rather he holds back the hands of whom so ever he wills thereby he cannot spend a penny in the way of Allah while on the other hand we find people like Abu Bakr Siddique(RadiAllahuunhu) who spend everything in the way of Allah. The Taufeeqh to spend comes from Allah, Subhan Allah!

وَأَنفِقُواْ فِى سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ وَلاَ تُلْقُواْ بِأَيْدِيكُمْ إِلَى التَّهْلُكَةِ وَأَحْسِنُواْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ

“And spend in the cause of Allah and do not throw yourselves into destruction, and do good. Truly, Allah loves Al-Muhsinin (those who do good) “[2:195]

Today most of our minds want to see things in context, in relative to something else.
We’ve stopped looking beyond the apparent. My dear friends, if you’ve read this article till here, then this is but mere information. Information is power when you act upon it, when it finally sinks in and you begin to use it, until then it just gets you SOMEWHERE.

If we don’t want to spend now, eventually it should fade away, wouldn’t it be wiser to invest in our Akhirah bank the reward being promised. Duniya is too short a life; the real life is that of the Akhirah but yet we are working, saving, paying our taxes to enjoy our retirement in duniya.
What taxes are we paying to collect in the Akhirah? Let’s take a minute to reconsider how we spend our time and energy, and how that capital goes into supporting one another in community, as finally to Allah we all return.

That being said, as I pen the end, I strongly feel this ayah has left a greater impact on myself.
I leave you quoting “Whoever gives charity equivalent to a date, from his pure earnings and Allah only accepts pure then Allah will accept it with His right hand, then He will nurture it for its companion, like one of you nurtures his foal, until it becomes like a mountain.” Reported by al-Bukhari (#1410)

It was narrated from Abdullah ibn Mas’ ood (RadiAllahuunhu) that when this ayah was revealed, Abu Dahdah(RadiAllahuunhu) gave his entire garden of 600 to 700 date palms to Allah as a loan. Subha Allah.

We could try to follow suit In sha Allah. Taqabbal allahu minna wa minkum.

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Absolute relation

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمـَنِ الرَّحِيم
(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

Keeping into consideration the time limit of my young readers, I did not want to prolong my previous article “Zooming in on Hubbush Shahwaat”. This article is Part 2 of the previous one (please bear with me :)  ) and it answers the questions of friendship or casual relationship with not just the opposite sex but to the entire creation of Allah. Many a times we try to reassure ourselves that our interaction with people is on X, Y, Z grounds. But the question is do we know the absolute ground rules?

 It is indeed lamentable that we lack in moderation while dealing with Allah’s creation. Let’s take a deeper walk with the ways of interacting with Allah’s creation.

Levels of interacting with people:

  1. Muwasat– This kind of relationship is based on compassion to the entire creation irrespective of ethnicity, religion or background even so extended to all animals and creatures. It includes charitable aid, assistance, allowance, removing harm. One needs to fulfill this without bias.
    “Those who are kind and considerate to Allah’s creatures, Allah bestows His kindness and affection on them. Show kindness to the creatures on the earth so that Allah may be kind to you.” Hadith – Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi”

    A funeral procession passed in front of the Prophet and he stood up. When he was told that it was the coffin of a Jew, he said, “Is it not a living being (soul)?”
    (Sahih Bukhari, Volume 2, Book 23, Number 399)

    History talks of many examples in support of this be it from Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) carrying the bag of a Non-Muslim to Omar(Radhiallaho Anho) who gave stipend money to Non-Muslims during his Caliphate. It goes so much so that if a Muslim oppresses (kills) a dhimmi (Non -Muslim) unjustly he will not even smell the fragrance of Paradise.

  2. Mudarat- This kind of relationship is when dealing with people on a one on one basis. It requires us to be good to them with respect to manners and behaviour (pleasant, friendly and polite)
    A Jewish man came to Prophet’s (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam)house. Prophet(Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) offered some food; man ate, spent night there, rested on Prophet’s bed and left it dirty. He forgot his sword and came back to get it. Prophet
    (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) gave it with due respect. Seeing this the man became Muslim. Subhan Allah…
  3. Mu’amalat – This kind of relationship is when dealing with people during work (business, school, hospital, library, industry and technology) or trade (market, consultation). Again we are required to deal with them with honestly and with good conduct.
  4. Muwalat- This kind of relationship is forbidden as it involves close and intimate friendship, deep love and affection in the heart. It requires complete support, help, co-operation to the other person resulting in compromising of our deen(religion).  A person tends to get influenced by the other’s speech, behaviour, dressing and other practices. This friendship is exclusive to Allah, his messenger and the believer’s. (As mentioned in my previous article the most predominant of desires is that of women.)

Let’s not question the full stop…….

One may wonder why so much of categorization while dealing with Allah’s creation? Well, all commands that are given by our religion or Sharia (Islamic Law) has a goal and a purpose. Subhan Allah anything that harms a person’s religion is not supported, and anything improving a person’s Imaan (belief) is commanded and encouraged.

A good, religious spouse is important in serving our Deen. Our outlook of life changes, benefits of duniya decreases and the confidence in Imaan increases. With a Non-Muslim as spouse or Wali we are depriving ourselves of unlimited opportunities. The focus would be on approving the person’s actions and pleasing him rather than Allah, which would eventually take us away from our goal.
Imaan (belief) leads to increase in Imaan and Kufr (disbelief) leads to increase in Kufr.

 A person will be with whom he loves. (Bukhari, Muslim)

My dear friends, love is such a strong emotion that draws you towards it .We tend to leave everything in order to focus on pleasing the person and staying away from disappointing him. Sometimes, apparently we do consider it wrong, but deep down in the heart we dwell over it, muster it although we don’t verbalize our feelings. We *are in* it. And we can’t help but feel it (and of course we must…shhhhh it)     :)

لِّلَّهِ مَا فِي السَّمَـوتِ وَمَا فِى الاٌّرْضِ وَإِن تُبْدُواْ مَا فِي أَنفُسِكُمْ أَوْ تُخْفُوهُ يُحَاسِبْكُم بِهِ اللَّهُ فَيَغْفِرُ لِمَن يَشَآءُ وَيُعَذِّبُ مَن يَشَآءُ وَاللَّهُ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ

To Allah belongs all that is in the heavens and all that is on the earth, and whether you disclose what is in yourselves or conceal it, Allah will call you to account for it. Then He forgives whom He wills and punishes whom He wills. And Allah is able to do all things.(Al Baqarah:284)

We all claim to love Allah, but does Allah accept it just be we saying? No, he needs proof. He requires evidence which is obtained by doing Itteba e Sunnah(following the ways of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam)). If we don’t do this our claim is not true.
Some companion’s said, we love Allah with hubban shadeedah(intense love) so Allah told,

 “ Say (O Muhammad to mankind): “If you (really) love Allah, then  follow me
    (i.e. Muhammad), Allah will love you and  forgive you your sins.  
       And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” ” (Imran: 31)

For the sake of emphasis I repeat in italics, if you love Allah follow the prophet(Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam).

I would like to sign off by stating what  Ali (Radhiallaho Anho)said, there is no obedience to the creation if it means disobedience to the creator.

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